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Jul 27, 2023Liked by Charlie Rewilding

How is it your words always reach me at exactly the right time? It’s getting ridiculous. This is beautiful and wise and all of the good things. I’m so glad you and Andrew found each other. I’m so glad I found you. I find myself getting my husband to read your words as an explanation for my feelings more and more. “This!” I yell excitedly, flailing my iPhone in his general direction and on the verge of tears again because someone has written how I feel. “This, please read this, she is saying how I feel!” I’m a writer myself but can never put my feelings and needs into words in the way you do it. Thank you. And thank you for telling me 😊🧡

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I absolutely love it when this happens; it's serendipitous! After so many years of gaslighting myself I find it forever amazing and wonderful that I know now that I can send my deepest feels out and they will likely be received with a 'yeah I get that'. Thank you for reading my letters, and for sharing how you feel about them - it means the world - and I'm so so so happy they help your husband with insight into your world. That's very special. Thank you, too, for telling me. 🤗♡

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Jul 27, 2023Liked by Charlie Rewilding

Yes ❤️ I’m just accepting that feeling safe is a place that exists within me and from that place I can choose how and when to engage. I think it’s wild that is new news to me and I love this piece of news. ‘Safety starts from within’. I love that sentence too. Thank you. Let’s quietly resist the people pleaser parts ❤️ Now to find and make friends with that resistor 😁

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So relate to you Gayle - it's news that got a little delayed in transit, but hurray it's now finally reached us! Rooting for you ❤️

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Jul 27, 2023Liked by Charlie Rewilding

A like minded friend and I were talking about this yesterday - how we have become so good at othering ourselves, and making our experience of things deficient or wrong. Finding safety and understanding is hard and you don’t find it everywhere, so you shouldn’t seek it in every person. Thank you for telling me - so powerful ❤️

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YES. We have had to make ourselves the enemy to survive without the knowledge we have now. No more, thank you for telling me too ♡

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Jul 27, 2023Liked by Charlie Rewilding

What a fantastic phrase to keep at the ready. Thank you for telling me ❤️

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Already putting is to use, I love that 🙂❤️

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Jul 27, 2023Liked by Charlie Rewilding

I'm too tired to write a smart response, but this was a really good insight. Thanks for sharing it!

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Total respect for prioritising your energy levels ♡ Thank you for reading and stopping by in the comments with kind words. Hope you are able to catch some good rest :)

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“Other people’s reactions are not my responsibility...” I know this, but it will take me a long time to actually feel this and put it into practice. I’m so glad you have Andrew- my husband has been so supportive, too, and I’m endlessly grateful!!! So many of your posts have messages that I will reread- this will be one for sure as I continue to unmask and care for myself better. I am enough as I am❤️

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