Not sure anyone really knows who they are until they're in their 30's...especially in our current time; so much information/choice/opinion is readily available (whether you want it or not) online and that is where we live our lives. Age gives you choice...gives you a foundation for your opinions...gives you experience both good and bad. Blogs etc are by definition, self indulgent...but that's not a bad thing...if it helps you, do it...if people don't like it they don't have to read it, they certainly don't need to comment. You're fine Charlie, bugger what others think, you're fine 😊
I have been working with women lately on my new project and I've found that without fail, we have all been conditioned to be extreme people-pleasers. I'm sure this journey of self-discovery will be challenging, but so so magical and worthwhile as you discover more and more your authentic desires :)
It sounds like a fascinating project. I am always amazed at the responses I receive from women when I share about people-pleasing online - it's a really big issue! Thanks for your kind words 🥰
Vacationing in Portugal sounds amazing! One day I will get to Europe!
The first part of unmasking I’ve been working on is being honest with others in a kind way- meaning finding ways to say no without hurting anyone’s feelings if possible. Haha now that I say that, it sounds like a baby step away from people-pleasing, but maybe that will be the step I need to do even better- to not take others’ emotions on as my responsibility... I think part of the process is also recognizing that people-pleasing is a response to past negativity/neglect. I need to learn that I can make the choices that are best for me, and it will be okay. I will not be hated or anything similarly dramatic. Baby steps, though 😉
Not sure anyone really knows who they are until they're in their 30's...especially in our current time; so much information/choice/opinion is readily available (whether you want it or not) online and that is where we live our lives. Age gives you choice...gives you a foundation for your opinions...gives you experience both good and bad. Blogs etc are by definition, self indulgent...but that's not a bad thing...if it helps you, do it...if people don't like it they don't have to read it, they certainly don't need to comment. You're fine Charlie, bugger what others think, you're fine 😊
Thank you Matthew 😊
I have been working with women lately on my new project and I've found that without fail, we have all been conditioned to be extreme people-pleasers. I'm sure this journey of self-discovery will be challenging, but so so magical and worthwhile as you discover more and more your authentic desires :)
It sounds like a fascinating project. I am always amazed at the responses I receive from women when I share about people-pleasing online - it's a really big issue! Thanks for your kind words 🥰
Vacationing in Portugal sounds amazing! One day I will get to Europe!
The first part of unmasking I’ve been working on is being honest with others in a kind way- meaning finding ways to say no without hurting anyone’s feelings if possible. Haha now that I say that, it sounds like a baby step away from people-pleasing, but maybe that will be the step I need to do even better- to not take others’ emotions on as my responsibility... I think part of the process is also recognizing that people-pleasing is a response to past negativity/neglect. I need to learn that I can make the choices that are best for me, and it will be okay. I will not be hated or anything similarly dramatic. Baby steps, though 😉